Amanda Bailey Counseling
Stop losing the whole night to the same argument and start enjoying the person you built this life with.
Private virtual relationship sessions for couples stuck in disconnection, shutdown, or recurring conflict across New York, Maine, and West Virginia. Rooted in affirming care for queer and non-monogamous relationships.
“Her insight was deep and revelatory from early on in our work with her.”
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You’ve talked it through, sent each other the relationship posts, planned the date nights, read the advice, and promised each other next time would go better. Or maybe you’ve stopped bringing it up at all, hoping things will get better on their own.
The problem isn’t a lack of love or one more communication tip. It may be the pattern that takes over before either of you realizes what is happening.
15 years in the field. 10 years specializing in couples. Real change that shows up at home.
Testimonials
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“Her insight was deep and revelatory from early on in our work with her…”
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“She is able to provide reverence for our individual experiences while prioritizing our relationship’s needs…”
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“Her ability to make our space feel inclusive of our queerness, our quirks, and our possibility is invaluable.”
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Start with a FREE 15-minute consult. No pressure, just a quick conversation to see if I’m the right fit for both of you.
Still choosing each other? Let’s start there.
What Working Together Can Start To Change
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Bring up the hard thing, stay on the same team, and end the night feeling closer instead of quietly wondering what the conflict means for your future.
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I look for the subtle moments keeping the pattern alive, then help both of you practice a different response you can use when conflict hits.
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Many couples begin seeing the pattern more clearly within the first few sessions, with meaningful shifts building as the work continues.
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You show up. You’ll practice focused changes between sessions and bring back what worked, what didn’t, and what still got messy.
This is not staying inside the relationship anymore.
○ You had another 11:30 p.m. conversation that went nowhere, then lay inches apart staring at opposite walls.
○ You’re at work replaying one sentence from last night and barely hearing what anyone around you is saying.
○ You hear the front door open and immediately try to read the mood before deciding whether now is a safe time to bring anything up.
○ You sit beside each other on the couch, both scrolling, and realize you miss someone who is three feet away.
○ One of you says, “Can we talk?” The other already feels cornered, and the conversation is halfway off the rails before it begins.
○ You’re trying to rebuild after an affair or betrayal, but trust still feels fragile. A late text, a phone turned over, or one unanswered question can bring all the hurt right back.
Talking about the fight is not the same as changing the pattern.
You’ve talked it out, listened to the podcasts, scrolled the relatable posts, planned the date nights, apologized, and promised to handle it differently next time.
You can understand exactly what went wrong once you’re calm, and still watch all that insight disappear the second one of you feels criticized and the other shuts down.
We’ll slow down the exact moment the pattern takes over, help each of you see your part clearly, and practice a different response with you in real time.
No taking sides. No forcing your relationship into someone else’s rules. Whether you are monogamous, polyamorous, or ENM, the focus stays on what helps the people in your relationship function better together.
Build a relationship that feels good on the ordinary days and strong enough for the hard ones.
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Free 15-Minute Consult
See if this feels right. Tell me what’s been happening and get a feel for whether I’m the right fit for both of you.
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Early Wins + Relief
Start seeing the pattern sooner. Notice the little moments where things begin to shift before another whole night gets lost to it.
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Practice What Actually Helps
Do something different in real time. We’ll work on new responses together, then see how they hold up at home when life gets messy.
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Build Something You Can Trust
Feel confident in the two of you. The goal is to leave with stronger tools and a relationship that feels solid when hard things happen.
Hey, I'm Amanda Bailey, LCPC. If you found this after another hard night, I’m really glad you’re here.
Results focused relationship sessions and affirming care for queer and consensually non-monogamous couples that are ready to make real change.
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15 years of experience
10 years specializing in couples
Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in Maine, New York, and West Virginia
Welcoming of queer, monogamous, polyamorous, and ethically nonmonogamous relationships
Trained in Crucible Neurobiological Therapy
FAQs
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I’m not just listening to the latest fight. I’m watching for the little moments that keep pulling you back into it, then helping you practice a different response so the change actually shows up at home.
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That’s okay. You do not have to walk in equally sold on this. I just need both of you willing to be honest, look at your own part, and try something different.
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Nope. I’m not here to pick a winner. I’m here to help both of you see what you’re protecting, what you’re contributing, and what needs to change between you.
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You do not need to explain or defend your relationship before we can work on it. I’m queer, I work with monogamous, polyamorous, and ethically nonmonogamous couples, and I care about what works for the people in the relationship, not what someone else thinks it should look like.
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I’m out of network with insurance, but I can provide a superbill through SimplePractice for possible reimbursement. Credit cards, debit cards, and HSA/FSA payments are accepted.
Openings available virtually in New York, Maine, and West Virginia
Accepting a limited number of couples so your relationship receives the time, attention, and support it deserves.
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